The Career Builder's Podcast

How Interviewing is Like Dating

Interviewing and dating share some striking elements between them. Learning from your dating life can improve your skills at the interview table.

Topics Covered

What makes interviews and dates so similar:
- Prep/confidence, Connection, Rejection
Having confidence in what you have to offer
Dealing with rejection - not taking it personally, I know that the right thing is still out there for me
Central objective is building trust in both
Distinction between desperation and enthusiasm
Shifting the focus away from me to we - fill a need for the interviewer
Best dates and interviews - when you're really present and curious, keeping it light/conversational
Seth Godin's concept "Being a purple cow" - remembering remarkability - https://seths.blog/
Checking for connection - you'll be working with this person every day
How Amy Porterfield interviews https://www.amyporterfield.com/
Feel at ease by detaching yourself from the outcome of the experience
Rejection doesn't have to be crippling
Dating and interviewing is multi-process - take one day at a time and one date at a time
How you can get in the mindset of not putting too much pressure on yourself
Dealing with performance anxiety
Learn from your worst experiences
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT
Understanding the buyer's journey in interviewing and dating, the natural cycle
Shifting the mindset from nerves (fear) to excitement - Strategy from Mel Robbins at 4:13 in this video http://tiny.cc/p6ydfz
You are uniquely valuable as a person - the right thing is going to come along